To love your children means more than supplying them with material gifts.
Our society has shifted the focus of love. It’s no longer about a deep emotional connection. About doing what’s best. About correction, discipline, instruction.
First and foremost, Christian mama, is to remember that our goals are not aligned with the goals of everyone else. Raising boys to be Christian men is something totally different than raising a man to be wealthy. Raising little girls to be servants of Jesus looks different than a college education and a life without a family.
The goals we have for our children look different than those of the world. What we hope our children do with their lives is different. Even down to aligning with their genetic makeup is different for us Christians.
Proverbs 3:12 and Hebrews 12:5-11 speak of The Father correcting those He loves. Correcting our children doesn’t mean we hate them. It means we love them. And we love them enough to correct wrong behavior. Because we understand our goal is to raise them to be God fearing adults. To love The Lord, and serve them because they want to. Our children should be respectful and obey their parents.
I can almost hear the comments of some, as they speak harshly against “beating your children”. Which, for the record, is not at all what I’m suggesting. And I have no tolerance for such.
To love our children is to correct them when they’re wrong. And while some behaviors might seem cute as small children, it’s not cute when they’re teenagers. Let alone adults.
Have you ever prayed about something, so fervently, so effectually, so faithfully, just to get a resounding “NO” from God? What did you learn from that? That He hated you?
Chances are that’s not the case. He probably didn’t say no without a good reason. In fact, there was probably a really good reason, and He provided you with something better than you could have imagined.
”If ye then, being evil, know how to give good gifts unto your children, how much more shall your Father which is in heaven give good things to them that ask him?” (Matthew 7:11)
He gives us good things, and as our Heavenly Father, knows what we need. Don’t we, as parents, do what we feel is best for our children? And sometimes, the answer to what they want should be, simply, no. And that’s okay. It doesn’t mean you don’t love them. Hear me – you can tell your children no and still love them.
As parents, it’s often necessary to set boundaries and limits. That’s perfectly fine. In a society where anything goes, we certainly need a few people to stand up and say something. And we have to teach our children that. In order to teach them, we have to set an example. Though not popular, remember loving our children is actually what’s important. Not the status we receive from others.
Loving your children is more than fulfilling their needs when they’re young.
Especially us mothers, we think that our job is to rush to meet our children’s demands. A newborn infant triggers a response in a mother like no other. However, we need to keep in mind our goal is raising responsible adults, not just meeting needs of children.
“Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.” (Proverbs 22:6)
We’ve all heard this verse before. And what it means is simply this: train up your child to use his talents, to be what he’s supposed to be, to fulfill his purpose.
Often it’s attributed to bringing them up in church, which is certainly important. But it’s more than that. We also have to raise them in a way that they’ll be what they’re supposed to be when they’re older.
Loving your children involves wanting the best for them. Now, when they’re adults, and where they spend eternity.
Just as we are to pray for our husbands, we should also cover our children in prayer. And know that ultimately they belong to God. He takes better care of them than we ever could, and when we realize that, our children benefit.
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