Today, I am excited to share with you this Guest Post from Tatiana Adurias from The Musings of Mum.
I love this beautiful reminder that we need like-minded friends as Christian women for support and encouragement. So, read on for the reasons YOU need a like-minded friend!
Seven years ago, for her birthday, my daughter invited a new friend to join us at an amusement park. I’d never met the girl before, much less her mother. Yet her friend’s mother decided to tag along, and I reluctantly agreed. The drive out to the amusement park was long, and introverted me, was stuck in a small car, with a very chatty stranger. It was overwhelming. Awkward. It was just what I needed.
For years I was convinced that all I needed in my life, was my God, my husband and my children. Friendships with other women were never something I pursued, because I’ve been put-down, picked-on and ignored by other women on multiple occasions.
Women can be mean.
Often times, as adults, we neglect to seek out, and nurture friendships with other women, because we’ve been burned in the past. And yet, as believers we’re called to fellowship and exhortation.
And let us consider one another in order to stir up love and good works, not forsaking the assembling of ourselves together, as is the manner of some, but exhorting one another, and so much the more as you see the Day approaching.
What Is a Like-Minded Friend and Why You Need One
A like-minded friend, is one who shares your interests, passions and beliefs.
During a period of severe rebellion against the Lord, I fell in love and married an unbeliever. Two years later, when I came back to the Lord, I began to pray for my husband’s conversion, which took nearly 10 years. For a long time, it seemed my prayers would never be answered, and what I realized was that though I had come back to the Lord, my friendships still lived in the world.
The Bible tells us there is no fellowship between light and darkness (2 Cor. 6:14).
Since there was no like-mindedness in either my marriage or any of my friendships my growth in knowledge of the Word of God, was stagnant. And my relationship with Christ was inconsistent.
1. A Like-Minded Friend Will Hold You Accountable
Let’s face it, sometimes we need a little reality check.
The problem with my ‘all I need is my God, my husband, and my children‘ theory was that I had limited accountability. My husband’s and my children’s perspectives are far different, than mine.
A like-minded female friend, is better equipped to asses the situation from a women’s perspective, and provide Biblical accountability.
Brethren, if a man is overtaken in any trespass, you who are spiritual restore such a one in a spirit of gentleness, considering yourself lest you also be tempted.
2. A Like-Minded Friend Will Encourage & Support You
Women are expert players of the comparison game. We compare our homes, careers, wardrobes, children, and even our spiritual walk. And we know that what often follows comparison, is criticism.
Why is it that we can’t see ourselves the way others do?
Why do we focus on our faults, and fail to see the beauty within?
A like-minded friend, builds you up (1 Thess. 5:11). She will walk with you, and lift you, when you are down.
Two are better than one,
Because they have a good reward for their labor.
For if they fall, one will lift up his companion.
But woe to him who is alone when he falls,
For he has no one to help him up.
Again, if two lie down together, they will keep warm;
But how can one be warm alone?
Though one may be overpowered by another, two can withstand him.
And a threefold cord is not quickly broken.
The Blessing in Vulnerability
When we’ve been hurt, letting someone in on the private details and insecurities of our lives is challenging. Opening up, and putting our weaknesses on display is not something any of us wants to volunteer for. However there is a huge blessing in vulnerability.
Prayer is intimate, and when we share our needs with like-minded friends and call upon the name of the Lord. We can move mountains.
What I eventually learned, from Shirley (the chatty stranger on that long ride to the amusement park), was that not all women are mean. Many are looking for accountability, support and encouragement, just like you. Today, Shirley is one of the most important people in my life. She is my prayer partner and my cheerleader. She is the first person to point me back to scripture and remind me Jesus has my back, when I’m about to lose my head.
Do you have a like-minded friend, who is willing to call you out and point you back to Jesus? Are you that friend?
I hope you enjoyed this post as much as I did! For more about Tatiana, you can check her out here.