As a mother, whether you work away from home, work from home, or stay home 24/7 you need time alone. More importantly, you need alone time with The Lord. But how do you find the time when you can’t even go potty alone?
Just as with any other relationship, we have to take care of ourselves, and that means we need to make time for the One who created us. And while I certainly have not cornered the market on managing my time efficiently. But I want to share ideas with you for how to get even just a couple hours alone, possibly more.
The precious time that you do get to yourself you definitely need to rest and regroup. I’m not really sure when not showering for days became a badge of honor for moms, but make sure you’re taking care of yourself on a daily basis. Hour long bubble baths might not be on the daily agenda, but taking 15 minutes to shower and brush your teeth is certainly a must. So this isn’t a post about self-care, not that I’m sure why that’s even a thing. Mom, take care of yourself. You can’t care for your family if you aren’t taking care of yourself.
Ideas for Mommy Time:
- Utilize the “Mom’s Day Out” time many churches offer. Yes, it’s usually something you have to pay for, but at around $5 per child for a few hours. To me, definitely worth it. Take the time to get a pedicure, get groceries, or read and study your Bible (in the quiet…). If this is not something offered at your church or near your home, then maybe you could start up something at your church. Talk to your pastor about offering a program for stay at home moms.
- Find a friend to “swap” kids with. Even if you each agree to 2 hours once a week, it’s better than nothing. Most moms need a break and having a friend you trust to watch your kids is a relief. Don’t be afraid to ask, chances are your friend is looking for a break, too.
- How about Dad, or grandparents/other family members? Could someone keep the kids a few hours, maybe a day, for you to set aside time to reconnect with Jesus? Arabah Joy has a Spiritual Retreat DIY list you should check out. She recommends getting away for the weekend, totally prepared and willing to spend time in prayer and in the Word. I know this isn’t an option for a lot of people, but even just a few hours could do wonders!
- Utilize sleep times. I know, this is easier said than done. BUT – if you can sneak in 30 minutes before babies wake up and stay up an hour or so after they go to bed, you’d be amazed. And, if you’re like me, you spend a lot of time doing “the scroll”. You know, scrolling through Facebook because it requires no thought and you’re pretty much done for the day. But if we spend this time reading the Bible, or praying, I think our days would be much better.
But none of it works…
If you’re anything like me, then you know deep down that you have time, you just don’t always spend it wisely. I get hooked on a Netflix series and I’m useless for days. Or a good book… reading is better than watching tv but once I’m in a good storyline the world around me fades. Yes, I’m a nerd. I have to prioritize time with God. Make a conscious decision to stop making excuses and start doing better.
No amount of “alone time” will make a difference if we aren’t using it wisely. Free up time where possible, get time away from kids occasionally (yes, you’re still a good mom) and learn to invest in the relationship that matters most.